Here are 3 things that opened my heart, mind and soul this week.
This video about Family Constellations. If you haven't heard of or experienced family constellations, I highly recommend it!
Each family is a field of energy and everyone in the family needs a place. When a member is pushed out, un-recognized or shunned, it creates an imbalance. Someone in the family will identify with them and repeat the pattern in order to heal it.
Favorite quote by Bert Hellinger, founder of family constellations: "We are all born into a common soul, into a spiritual field that we share with the members of our family. This soul reaches beyond our body and ties us deeply with all who belong to this soul."
Finished reading The Heart of the Shaman by Alberto Villoldo.
This book focuses on the dreaming and time-travel practices of the medicine men and women of the Andes and Amazon. Villoldo shares some of their time-honored teachings that emphasize the sacred dream: an ephemeral, yet powerful vision that has the potential to guide us to our purpose and show us our place in the universe. He helps us identify the 3 nightmares we live in, scarcity, safety and conditional love and break free of these to dream our world into being.
Favorite quote: "Find what is most difficult for you to love and love it."
This video with Demi Moore and her daughters, openly sharing with each other their hurts and vulnerability, without shaming, blaming or judging each other. Also a powerful portrayal of family constellations and how patterns repeat until healed.
Favorite moment: When her older daughter says that even though her mother would tell her often "I love you", she could not feel it or believe she was lovable because her mother did not love herself.
Please share what blew your mind, opened your heart and moved you this week!
Love to you all,
This morning, as I scanned through my closet, I felt drawn to wearing a long white and indigo gown, but I hesitated. Do I want to stand out? Or do I want to go unnoticed, under the radar? I would feel more comfortable blending in, I won't have to worry about spilling tea, or one of my daughters giving me a hug with chocolate or mud on their hands. Jeans and a t shirt are so easy.
"Come on", I tell myself, "go for it". I reached for the gown, feeling its softness, enjoying the texture and weight of the fabric. I held my body differently, I stood up taller, opened my heart. I could feel playfulness arise in my heart and a smile on my face. Now I want to choose an inspiring piece of jewelry to go with it. As I slipped the gown over leggings and a long sleeve shirt, I could already feel how this would set the tone for my day.
As I dropped my girls off at school, I felt radiant and powerful as I sensed the soft fabric, the beautiful colors and felt the flow of the gown as I walked. I held my body differently, I walked with more confidence, the fabric swaying side to side.
As I walked back to the car, I pondered the next part of the day. I could go straight to work on my computer or I could go to a non-linear movement practice. Instead of surrendering to the pressure of doing more, for one hour I moved with my eyes closed, surrounded by other women, allowing what wanted to be expressed to translate into movement and flow. I felt the gown swaying around me, supporting this healing and release.
After class, at the cafe, two young women smiled and complimented me on my outfit, "it's so beautiful" they said. I could tell they felt its magic. They didn't know where to place this kind of outfit. It stands out, it's timeless.
I clearly remember my attitude and relationship with clothing as a teenager. I lived in Paris and went to Catholic school. We didn't have a uniform per say but our clothes had to be a certain color. Navy blue pants and a grey, white or navy blue top. We were not supposed to have branding on any of the clothing. I remember the strict uniform that we created for ourselves. Almost all of the girls wore stretchy navy blue pants by the same brand and sweaters by two other brands. Shoes were also sourced from one of two brands. And all of these pieces of clothing were purchased with our mothers from two stores in our neighborhood. There was judgement and belonging attached to whether you wore these brands or not. It was the way to show how wealthy your family was and how "cool" you were. To this day, when I wear navy leggings or a grey or dark blue sweater, I am carried back to the memories of those formative years.
Navy Blue is associated with restrictive environment (as its name indicates with the strict expectation of being in the Navy). There are rules and constraints you have to follow. It is the color of conservatism and responsibility and although it appears to be cool, calm and collected, it is the color of repressed feelings. Dark blue can be compassionate but has trouble showing it as its emotions run deep. It is a serious color representing knowledge, power, and integrity, and is often worn in the corporate world.
This was our experience in Middle School and High School. We were taught to hold our emotions in, to follow the rules and to value knowledge and intellect above our instincts and intuition.
What we wear is a statement of who we are. The colors we chose, the pieces, the fabrics, each one a choice and a communication to ourselves and others. In the Yoga Community, there is a dress code, there are trendier brands. For Kundalini Yogis, wearing white is a spiritual practice. Wearing white expands the aura, it uplifts and expands your radiance and presence. White is actually not a color, it is a tone, which occurs when all the colors of the visible spectrum are put together. White symbolizes purity, cleanliness, harmony, simplicity, truth and neutrality. It is believed that wearing white helps us feel clear and focused on our thoughts and actions. Maybe this is why Doctors wear white. White is thought to help our bodily functions, our nervous system and our organs.
In the shamanic teachings, wearing black is believed to make the energy field unreadable to others, it is protective and grounding. Know that when you are called to wearing black or darker colors, there might be a good reason and go with it!
Tomorrow, when you chose your outfit for the day, pause. Make a bold choice, align with your essence, express what you feel called to. Let your expression be unique. By allowing you be You, everyone you meet will benefit.
You might have heard the rule, "don't wear white after Labor Day." Kundalini Yogis happily ignore this rule along with famous trend setters such as Coco Chanel who was famous for ignoring the admonition and wore white year-round.
Inez Milholland Boissevain appears at the National American Woman Suffrage Association parade in Washington on March 3, 1913. (Library of Congress)
Women throughout history have worn white to stand up for their rights, to show what they care about, as in the Women's Suffrage March in NYC in 1915. Over 20,000 supporters marched, the leaders wearing white. In her Washington Post article from Feb 6, 2019, Marisa Lati describes the historical moment when women wore white.
Dozens of female lawmakers wore white to the State of the Union Address earlier this year as a tribute. Over the course of history, women have worn white to stand out and make their voices be heard.
Photo by Alex Brandon
Here are some yogic reasons for ignoring that outdated rule and experiencing the power of wearing white.
Yogi Bhajan taught that wearing white clothing expands your auric radiance by at least one foot. A strong aura gives you radiance, health, and a strong sense of self and a powerful presence. The aura acts like a shield from dense energies and also as an attractor, calling to you what is beneficial. The stronger your aura, the more you can draw in and the more confident you feel.
Here are some quotes by Yogi Bhajan about the benefits of wearing white natural fiber clothing. He was a firm believer in the therapeutic benefit of wearing the combination of all colors- white!
We wear white because it's a simple scientific fact that every piece of matter or material has a foot and a half aura. Every animal has a three and a half foot aura. Every human has a nine foot aura. And if we wear the cotton and we wear the white, this color therapy gives us one extra foot of aura."
"So, I trust my students will behave right, but in case they behave like animals, they will still have a margin, an edge. And that is what it's all about. You have to wear a natural fiber and you have to wear white. It's a pure color therapy and it's called auric color therapy."
[From Beads of Truth, Spring 1981]
"We adopted this color because of our background and to support our development. We ask you to wear white so that you will reflect what is outside and go within yourself—that’s what white clothes can do for you.
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You know the feeling. When you are in the presence of someone who deeply inspires you. Being around them makes you feel loved and gives you energy. After spending time with them or hearing their voice, you feel lighter and like you could take on the world.
One. Two. Three. Four. Five. Done.
If it’s silent down there and you got the answering machine, it’s time to take a break from thinking, and do a yoga set, have some belly laughs, take a warm bath, give someone a hug, and tell yourself that you really really love yourself (although your mind will doubt it, your heart will love you back for saying it).